Thought

Thoughts

No relationship can be secure. It is not the nature of relationships to be secure. And if a relationship is secure it will lose all attraction. So this is a problem for the mind. If you want to enjoy a relationship, it has to be insecure. If you make it completely secure, absolutely secure, then you cannot enjoy it – it loses all charm, all attraction.

           

If you want to have a very secure relationship, then you will have to love a dead man; but then you will not enjoy it. That’s what happens to a lover when he becomes a husband: a husband is a dead lover; a wife is a dead lover. The past has become all, and now the past decides the future.

           

In fact if you are a wife you don’t have a future; only the past will go on repeating itself, all the doors are closed. If you are a husband then you don’t have a future; then you are confined, in an imprisonment.

So security is sought continuously but when you find it, you get fed up with it.

           

Once you become husbands and wife’s u loses the whole charm, the whole poetry is lost; romance is no longer there. Now they are dead people, they are simply repeating the past; they live in memories. Security never satisfies, and in insecurity there is fear – fear that the relationship can be lost. But that is part of being alive. Everything can be lost, nothing is certain – and that’s why everything is so beautiful.

           

If you live this moment totally, there is every possibility that the next moment the person may be still available...maybe b’coz the next moment is going to come out of this one. If you have loved the man and the man feels blessed, and the relationship has an ecstasy, then why should he leave you? In fact if you go on worrying, you are making him, forcing him, to leave you. And if you have wasted this moment, the next moment will come out of this wastage; it is going to be rotten.        

If you want to love a person, love him here now. Love him, because nobody knows what is going to happen in the next moment. The next moment there may be no possibility for love....Life is uncertain ...no one can make it certain.

The past is always closed, the future is always open. And in between the two is the present, a single moment of present, always trembling, shaking.